Mommy-sense

My doctor told me yesterday that Lulu is being spoiled and doesn't need to eat at night, and doesn't need to be held so often.  But I left, thinking "If this is true, why does everything thing in my being tell me otherwise?".  It's hard as a mom to make the decision you think is the right one.  Especially when circumstances are less than perfect.  It's hard enough trying to figure out if you should give the baby a Born Free bottle or Dr. Brown bottle.  Swaddle blanket or Miracle blanket.  Canned baby food or homemade baby food.  Similac or Target Brand formula.  7 pm bedtime or 8 pm bedtime.  See? Hard decisions! ;-)

What I am finding even harder is that there is STILL unknowns.  This is my 2nd kid - I knew with Cy that he was just hungry at night and he ate through the night until he was 7 or 8 months old.  I didn't want to push him to stop - I knew he would stop on his own.  So with Lulu I try and have the same approach.  But tonight as we were leaving the house, she was screaming and very very upset.  The MOMENT I would touch her - she's stop and go to sleep.  Then upon removing my hand - screams.  It crept in that she is spoiled.  She is spoiled rotten! All night she cried.  Spoiled Rotten.  I got home and fed her and she cried even more.  Spoiled Spoiled Spoiled! Then came the screaming.  And the projectile spit-up and the arching back.  Spoiled...?????? More spit-up, spit-up through the nose.  Screaming.  Definitely NOT spoiled...? Right?

At times of uncertainty, I need... WE need... to rely on our mommy-sense.  God gave us our mommy-sense for a reason! That is our commonsense! We know our baby better than ANYONE and we need to do what is right for OUR baby.  SO, I am going to stand firm that Lulu isn't spoiled... for the most part ;-) And that her reflux is still getting the best of her.  And I am going to block out all distracting, demoralizing comments about how she should be sleeping through the night or shouldn't be held so much.  I am going to do the best I can do for my baby girl because at the end of the day, that's all I can do. 

That's all any mama can do.  So mamas out there - if you are having a hard time, a hard night, a hard week or a hard year - do what YOU can do and do what YOU think is right! Potty-training at 4 years old - GO FOR IT! It's your kid, you know them the best! Baby eating every three hours through the night at 10 months old - GO FOR IT! It's your kid! To home school or private school or public school or boarding school - GO FOR IT! It's your kid!  Whatever dilemma you are faced with, throw away the guilt, ignore the comments and advice and listen to your MOMMY-SENSE - it's there for a reason! ;-)