Recent events have really got me thinking about friendship and time and family. NOW - this is NOT necessarily about my family - but just various events I've been watching unfold...
1. If something or someone is important to you - chances are, you make time for them... no matter what! I was talking to some friends who were saying it's hard to make friends now days with families and such because everyone is so busy. But I disagree. I don't think everyone is "so busy", I just think they do not want to find the time to see you or be your friend or go to your events or support you. I always try and prioritize and there has been times when I had NO time for anything but was still able to go to the hospital and hold a baby while the mama had surgery or go to a shower 1 1/2 hours away... because I found the time. Time is what we make of it. If something or someone is important to you - you make time for them... no matter what!
2. Family is all you have at the end! Do not burn bridges, do not spend your time hating on people or being mad. Because time passes too quickly and things are missed and feelings are hurt. Say your peace and move on. Be there for each other - forever and always. Understand. It's easy to get caught up in our own lives that we forget that our mom/brother/sister/dad/cousin/aunt/grandma also has a life and while we are at different places or in different chapters of our lives - we need to be loving, kind, caring, empathetic, and genuine - and understand. Support each other as much as possible. Hug! Find time to chat at least 1x a month to say hello. Because at the end, while you might have friends - when someone in your family passes away, you will not be sitting at their funeral going "I'm glad I was so mean to her or never tried to understand her or missed that stupid event of hers or missed out on so much of her life"... chances are, you will be sitting there, sobbing: "I wish soooo bad for just 5 more minutes with her". So be good to your family. Love your family. Be there for your family.
Now with that being said - I am going to be working on that myself! I love my mom, my sister and my brothers to pieces! It's high time I start showing it... unconditionally.
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Monday, November 14, 2011
Monday, September 5, 2011
Happy Labor Day
This weekend has just been absolutely, completely, jammed packed with lots of fun things for the Fouladi household! This has been the first holiday that I have not been completely depressed at the fact that my wonderful hubby had to work ALLLL weekend LONG. It has always been like that since I've known DH. I don't think we've had a holiday weekend together for 6 years (out of our 7 years together). It's just not something that someone in retail can do - take off during busy holiday sales (especially when in a commission job).
Anyway - this holiday I decided not to be a sad person. I have tried this in the past but it always happened that everyone always had other plans, so Cy and I always ended up being alone on the days where everyone else was with their families. I loaded up my calendar! And I'm talking LOADED! We had something planned every morning, afternoon, and evening. Cy is currently in his bed, exhausted from the long weekend.
We visited Bibi and went swimming, went to Memorial City Mall for some fun and lunch... followed by a ride on that spinny thing that makes me all sick ;-) We had an absolutely WONDERFUL playdate at my friend Abby's - the weather was perfect and company even more perfect! Then had dinner at my amazing friend, Krystin's. She helped the kids make little pizzas while I got to sit and feed Lulu in peace. Yeah - I know! PEACE! IT was amazing!!! :-) An entire feeding for the precious baby girl with no interruptions from big brother. Priceless.
We went to the park a couple times this weekend - with the weather so absolutely PERFECT and having stayed inside for the last 8 weeks because of a newborn and the heat being unbearable - it was soooo nice to get out! We also went swimming in cold water with my friend, Christine. That was a great visit up until the point Cy hid in her corner and poo'ed in his pants. *AACK!* We had dinner at Maria's with her family - real Mexican Fajitas ;-) They were delicious! We visited Nana & Papa for a couple hours for some BBQ - Papa showed Cy how to hit a baseball with the bat. That was amusing to watch! And of course Cy drove the little Jeep that Papa and Nana had gotten him and Cousin Nico to play with. :-)
All in all - a very busy weekend, packed full with family and friends. I miss some people dearly - family and friends. But count my blessings for those who are in my life and who have been sooooo kind and thoughtful to share this, what would have been a depressing, weekend with me!
Now what I'm thinking of doing tomorrow is.... writing down everything that Cy gets upset about ;-) Should be a very very very interesting blog - so stay tuned. And I hope y'all had a wonderful Labor Day Weekend!
Anyway - this holiday I decided not to be a sad person. I have tried this in the past but it always happened that everyone always had other plans, so Cy and I always ended up being alone on the days where everyone else was with their families. I loaded up my calendar! And I'm talking LOADED! We had something planned every morning, afternoon, and evening. Cy is currently in his bed, exhausted from the long weekend.
We visited Bibi and went swimming, went to Memorial City Mall for some fun and lunch... followed by a ride on that spinny thing that makes me all sick ;-) We had an absolutely WONDERFUL playdate at my friend Abby's - the weather was perfect and company even more perfect! Then had dinner at my amazing friend, Krystin's. She helped the kids make little pizzas while I got to sit and feed Lulu in peace. Yeah - I know! PEACE! IT was amazing!!! :-) An entire feeding for the precious baby girl with no interruptions from big brother. Priceless.
We went to the park a couple times this weekend - with the weather so absolutely PERFECT and having stayed inside for the last 8 weeks because of a newborn and the heat being unbearable - it was soooo nice to get out! We also went swimming in cold water with my friend, Christine. That was a great visit up until the point Cy hid in her corner and poo'ed in his pants. *AACK!* We had dinner at Maria's with her family - real Mexican Fajitas ;-) They were delicious! We visited Nana & Papa for a couple hours for some BBQ - Papa showed Cy how to hit a baseball with the bat. That was amusing to watch! And of course Cy drove the little Jeep that Papa and Nana had gotten him and Cousin Nico to play with. :-)
All in all - a very busy weekend, packed full with family and friends. I miss some people dearly - family and friends. But count my blessings for those who are in my life and who have been sooooo kind and thoughtful to share this, what would have been a depressing, weekend with me!
Now what I'm thinking of doing tomorrow is.... writing down everything that Cy gets upset about ;-) Should be a very very very interesting blog - so stay tuned. And I hope y'all had a wonderful Labor Day Weekend!
Sunday, April 3, 2011
I'm back!
I started this blog and have forgotten about it. I want to start blogging again. Mainly for myself - seems like a great place to keep myself accountable as I strive to be a better mother, wife, friend, sister, and daughter. Life has many ups and downs - and it helps to be able to share those with others.
So, accountability. Sheesh - that's a big word. I have always struggled with keeping a clean house, and have really been working hard to be better at that. As well as saving money! Ash and I just finished Dave Ramsey - we are on our way to financial freedom - that is something I'd like to share with others, the struggles but also how satisfying it is to save and to get out of debt. Family - I feel like family is and always should be #1, and often times I feel like myself and others forget that. I want to always strive to be the best family member I can be, while keeping my dignity in check.
The first thought coming to my head today is family. You often hear about how family will be there when no one else is. And i firmly believe that - and always have and always will! I find it sad how petty differences and little fights can cause family members to drift so far apart - hurting not only those involved but kids who are indirectly affected, as well as other family members. Recently I have had a dear friend to me, tell me about some medical problems they have been facing. No one knows.
It makes me think of myself and my family - what if one of us were to be extremely sick or in a bad wreck or lose a baby/family member?? Would we then become family again? Why not be family all the time. Loving, caring, kind, respectful. Why do we hate, bicker, argue, ignore, hurt. But then when tragedy hits - OH! Let's be family again. When a baby comes into the picture - Oh! here's family!
Why not be family 24/7?! Why not be there for each other 24/7? Why not lay aside our differences because we ARE family - because deep down, we do in fact LOVE each other, and because despite everything else - we will always, forever be connected to each other. Nothing else matters. I am preaching as much to myself as others. For before we throw the first stone, we are to look in the mirror and evaluate ourselves.
Just been thinking about that. Now don't go getting your panties in a twist - this isn't coming from 1 thing, or 2 things. This is coming from many of my friends also struggling with family and the consistency and love (or lack of) of their families. I just find it to be extremely sad - and something we could all benefit from: loving each other, respecting each other, putting aside differences for the great good of the family and the unity of the family.
So, accountability. :-) This is gonna be a fun journey! To become the best mother, wife, friend, sister, daughter that I can be! With #2 on the way - I have a lot of stress and pressure building up, and I am anxious to take life by the horns and become better :-) (or at least, the best I can be... for that day ;-) ha) Fake it, til you make it :-)
So, accountability. Sheesh - that's a big word. I have always struggled with keeping a clean house, and have really been working hard to be better at that. As well as saving money! Ash and I just finished Dave Ramsey - we are on our way to financial freedom - that is something I'd like to share with others, the struggles but also how satisfying it is to save and to get out of debt. Family - I feel like family is and always should be #1, and often times I feel like myself and others forget that. I want to always strive to be the best family member I can be, while keeping my dignity in check.
The first thought coming to my head today is family. You often hear about how family will be there when no one else is. And i firmly believe that - and always have and always will! I find it sad how petty differences and little fights can cause family members to drift so far apart - hurting not only those involved but kids who are indirectly affected, as well as other family members. Recently I have had a dear friend to me, tell me about some medical problems they have been facing. No one knows.
It makes me think of myself and my family - what if one of us were to be extremely sick or in a bad wreck or lose a baby/family member?? Would we then become family again? Why not be family all the time. Loving, caring, kind, respectful. Why do we hate, bicker, argue, ignore, hurt. But then when tragedy hits - OH! Let's be family again. When a baby comes into the picture - Oh! here's family!
Why not be family 24/7?! Why not be there for each other 24/7? Why not lay aside our differences because we ARE family - because deep down, we do in fact LOVE each other, and because despite everything else - we will always, forever be connected to each other. Nothing else matters. I am preaching as much to myself as others. For before we throw the first stone, we are to look in the mirror and evaluate ourselves.
Just been thinking about that. Now don't go getting your panties in a twist - this isn't coming from 1 thing, or 2 things. This is coming from many of my friends also struggling with family and the consistency and love (or lack of) of their families. I just find it to be extremely sad - and something we could all benefit from: loving each other, respecting each other, putting aside differences for the great good of the family and the unity of the family.
So, accountability. :-) This is gonna be a fun journey! To become the best mother, wife, friend, sister, daughter that I can be! With #2 on the way - I have a lot of stress and pressure building up, and I am anxious to take life by the horns and become better :-) (or at least, the best I can be... for that day ;-) ha) Fake it, til you make it :-)
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